I turned twenty-nine two weeks ago. In the days leading up to my birthday, I had several friends and members of my family ask me if I was apprehensive about the last year of my twenties. My answer was the same: “Nope. I’m excited to see what the year holds and finally be a young 30 rather than an old twenty-something.”
What has been so refreshing is that this birthday held no huge meltdown. No feelings of disconnectedness or like my life has no purpose. Or even feeling like the purpose of my life was getting lost in the monotony of life. I don’t know if it was because I was feeling numb to my birthday or if there was actual maturity manifesting itself. It very well could have been a fluke. Who knows?
And while I’m not particularly ‘over the hill’ (even though there are days when the pain in my hip and knee tell me otherwise) I wanted to share some of the things that I’ve learned in this decade. Wisdom for the reasonably mature or the ridiculously immature (clearly I fall in to the latter category… which is why I’ve had to learn these lessons multiple times…)
- Learn to laugh at yourself. If you don’t, someone else ends up laughing at you first. And then you get angry and stomp out of a room and you’re perceived as a person who can’t take a joke. But really you can. Sometimes, you’re just sensitive.
- Change the oil in your car. (Just… trust me…)
- Mr. Rogers was the best neighbor you’ll ever have.
- There will always be someone prettier, wiser, smarter, more athletic, skinnier, fatter etc. But there will never be anyone out there with your particular mix of neurosis. Embrace it.
- There are times when Opportunity slaps you upside the head. There are times when it attempts to whisper sweet nothings in your ear. It will even knock. But it will only ring once. It’s not the postman.
- Musicals may give you unrealistic expectations for romance, but that should not stop you from randomly bursting into song in a random place when you feel something deeply.
- You truly don’t know anything… even the things you think you know. It’s humbling when you’re faced with that.
- Today really does have enough evil of it’s own.
- There are no ordinary moments.
- You’re not going to look like someone else, dress like someone else, get that job someone else has. You will always be you. That has to be better than good enough. (No, I’m not writing a self-help book…)
- Jesus is sufficient. He’s more than sufficient. He just is…
- Give thanks in everything.
There you go. I’ll grant you some of those are pretty obscure. And maybe they only apply to me. But somehow, I think not.
What particular ages have taught you lessons? Are there certain things you feel like you need to learn over and over again? Did you ever feel disappointment when you’d watch Mr. Rogers and Captain Kangaroo wasn’t on afterward? (No? Me either…)